Kim. Member of the cumbercollective and definitely a shelockian (if you couldn't tell by the blog) Major fan of Martin, Amanda, Loo, Andrew, Mark and all the Sherlock cast and crew. Not as angsty as the title and icon suggest. My fandoms are awesome, it is primairily Sherlock BBC and all the cast. here are some other fandoms that I love and occaisionally blog about: Doctor Who, Teen Wolf, Miranda, Supernatural, Harry Potter loads of Dramas, TFIOS. I am a complete Hiddlestoner too. So yeah follow me if convenient, if inconvenient, follow anyway. I'm hella awesome and British.

My primary blog is called makemywayinlife, I was young and naive when I made it. I really dislike it but and don't spend much time on there. But you may get private messages from me on that one, so this is just a quick waring, my lovelies.

And, yes, i do have more the one OTP. That is completely possible.
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Tell me your secret.

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populardad:

there is a difference between people who are smart and people who get good grades

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cumberblush:

petition for john to say “no shit sherlock” in season four

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and yet he elects to be a detective

and yet he elects to be a detective

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cumberbuddy:

Benedict Cumberbatch’s short and sassy appearance on University Challenge: The Story So Far.

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anindoorkitty:

The hair, the hair, the hair…  x

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gorgeous bbc sherlock’s stills

gorgeous bbc sherlock’s stills

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getsherlock:

if the pilot episode was really the first episode, then i think they would’ve opened up the second episode with sherlock in his bed, writing ‘mr. sherlock watson’ in his lil journal over and over again

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iwantthatcoat:

consultingat221b:

iwantthatcoat:

consultingat221b:

prettyarbitrary:

marybegone:

prettyarbitrary:

iwantthatcoat:

Apparently, a new wave of people are indignant about the “Mary Hate” and misogyny again. See this. Mary did this.  (Not Amanda Abbington…ok? I’m not an idiot) But… Mary did this.  I believe Sherlock has a plan in mind, a goal, a reason to claim “surgery” and to spin a tale about a phone call that may never have occurred… (keep your friends close and your enemies closer). John is, as he says, doing things Sherlock’s way. Don’t tell me it was her only option. Don’t make excuses for the poor, pregnant woman (*that’s* misogynistic). Look at this picture again and tell me how nice she is, how sweet, how kind, how perfect for John. Tell me about your OT3. I love this man. I am Mummy Holmes. Except… I do know who shot my boy. I have every right to be monstrous.

NO.  STOP IT.
I have had enough of this.  I wasn’t going to say anything about the latest blow-up, but this?  THIS IS SHAMING.
STOP IT.
You do NOT have a right to be monstrous.  BECAUSE THIS IS A FUCKING TELEVISION SHOW and the people you are being monstrous to are REAL PEOPLE.
STOP setting up straw-man arguments and assumptions about what you think they must be thinking if they like the character.  You do NOT know, because there are a hundred different reasons that might have brought them to holding the opinion they do.
STOP canonizing your headcanon and assuming that because it makes sense to you, it must be what the show is aiming for.  You do NOT know, none of us do, because the show has historically been really great at thwarting all assumptions and expectations about what next season will bring.  (Whether what it came up with instead was better or not is a whole different discussion.)
And most of all, STOP assuming that because somebody likes—or hates!—a particular character, that it says ANYTHING about what they really want or would condone in real life.
STOP mocking and shaming and telling people that they are morally bankrupt because they happen to see something different from you, or think something different from you, or perhaps have been exposed to different information than you.
I don’t care whether you love Mary, or hate Mary, or are wildly indifferent to Mary.  I don’t care whether you think the show is better or worse for her presence on it.  STOP ATTACKING OTHER PEOPLE, BULLYING AND SILENCING OTHER PEOPLE AND MAKING THEM MISERABLE BECAUSE THEY DISAGREE WITH YOU.
I grasp that people who are doing this may not even have been aware that this is what they’ve been doing.  Some people have simply decided on their own stance and don’t want to hear about anything that disagrees with them.  
In which case you do not have the right to shout down others just because you don’t like what they’re saying.  You have resources to filter and control what you see on Tumblr.  USE THEM.
Other people have gotten entrenched in these moral positions: Mary = evil murderer whom no one should ever love; Mary = John’s feminine savior whom only a misogynist could hate. They are trying to fight for the soul and moral rectitude of fandom, based on opinions over this one character.  
But taking those positions in the first place is pointless.  She’s a character.  Whether you like her or hate her is a matter of personal preference, not a symbol of the state of your immortal soul.  And while discussions can and should be had on whether those preferences and interpretations are perhaps tied up in mores and expectations of a misogynist culture, shouting people down whenever they start talking about the character is antithetical to productive dialogue.  It’s silencing, and attempting to attack and shame people into either agreeing with your moral stance or shutting up about it is not only simply wrong, but also tactics worthy of the seediest lowlifes in politics and religion.
So if you feel like screaming at or mocking people for disagreeing with you about Mary, take a good hard look at yourself and then STOP.
I’ve said it before: it’s fine if you hate Mary.  It’s fine if you love Mary.  IT IS NOT FINE TO HURT OTHER PEOPLE FOR DISAGREEING WITH YOU ABOUT MARY.

Tells other people to stop shouting in CAPSLOCKS…. ^^

Well, yes, I was pretty irate.
I hope it was pretty clear, though, that I wasn’t shouting at people to stop shouting.  I was shouting at people to stop being hurtful to others—for example by shouting, bullying, shaming or mocking others—for having differing opinions.  


Fandom take a deep breath if you love her, fine, if you hate her fine.

Apparently, it’s not ‘if you love her, fine and if you hate her, fine’; ( although I don’t hate anyone. I just don’t like their actions. I certainly think they are compelling characters, and I’ve hated actions Sherlock and John have done too, without hating *them*). These are all deeply flawed characters. The entire show is packed with them. Apparently, if you want to criticise a character’s actions, and make people face up to the pure facts of what a character they support ( in many cases, unconditionally) *did*, you shouldn’t make your opinion known. Because it might hurt someone’s feelings. Or be “mean”. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions and to express them freely. Recently a new tag was developed specifically to protect people from accidentally viewing my opinions and those of others like me. To head this argument off at the pass, because I see it coming, I never wanted John to kill Mary. I never posted or implied anything like that. I just resent the one big happy family POV because I think it’s a bit much to forgive and I doubt it is sincere. Maybe it is. We will see what happens in the future. It is, most definitely, upsetting to me that people are so blasé and ultimately dismissive about my favorite character being shot and killed (temporarily or not). But they certainly have that right. And I can be upset about it.They never had to agree with me. I never expected that. And now, I have not invaded anyone’s space, but am still being told to stop showing my support for Sherlock. Just because he forgave Mary (if he really did), doesn’t mean I have to. And others can continue to support her. I am neither required to agree, nor to shut up. And I don’t see why I should have caps rants telling me enough is enough.

I loved Mary, but her actions as a character were unforgivable and seemed selfish. Very selfish. I obviously adore Amanda Abbington and I still think Mary is a great character, despite her flaws. Hell, I’d never deny the deep flaws of the Sherlock characters!I just wish people would appreciate other people’s opinions without getting so angry. No one should shut up. We can enjoy and excellent show and criticise characters and speculate. It’s fine if people do not want to see something, although it has reached a childish level where people are getting angry and sending hate to people because they think certain things or ship certain ships. I sound like a ridiculous peacemaker, but I just want a happy fandom and it is far from that at this moment.I hope it didn’t seem like I was being cruel or anything towards you, and if it did I am unbelievably sorry. I really love your blog and I love the whole of the fandom as well, apart from those who have started to act wrongly and caused arguments because of this whole situation that I still do not understand fully and I am really tired and don’t think I am making sense! Sorry about that also!

I was actually agreeing with you…that it should be if you love her…fine and if you hate her… fine. I don’t know why what I said doesn’t fit into that pattern. I’m just really really hurt by this whole thing that I can’t even agree with someone without sounding bitter. Sorry.

Oh god don’t apologise to me I have, probably, five hours sleep in the last two days nothing is making sense to me! It’s a really hurtful situation.

iwantthatcoat:

consultingat221b:

iwantthatcoat:

consultingat221b:

prettyarbitrary:

marybegone:

prettyarbitrary:

iwantthatcoat:

Apparently, a new wave of people are indignant about the “Mary Hate” and misogyny again.
See this. Mary did this.
(Not Amanda Abbington…ok? I’m not an idiot)
But… Mary did this.
I believe Sherlock has a plan in mind, a goal, a reason to claim “surgery” and to spin a tale about a phone call that may never have occurred… (keep your friends close and your enemies closer).
John is, as he says, doing things Sherlock’s way.
Don’t tell me it was her only option.
Don’t make excuses for the poor, pregnant woman (*that’s* misogynistic).
Look at this picture again and tell me how nice she is, how sweet, how kind, how perfect for John. Tell me about your OT3.
I love this man. I am Mummy Holmes. Except… I do know who shot my boy. I have every right to be monstrous.

NO.  STOP IT.

I have had enough of this.  I wasn’t going to say anything about the latest blow-up, but this?  THIS IS SHAMING.

STOP IT.

You do NOT have a right to be monstrous.  BECAUSE THIS IS A FUCKING TELEVISION SHOW and the people you are being monstrous to are REAL PEOPLE.

STOP setting up straw-man arguments and assumptions about what you think they must be thinking if they like the character.  You do NOT know, because there are a hundred different reasons that might have brought them to holding the opinion they do.

STOP canonizing your headcanon and assuming that because it makes sense to you, it must be what the show is aiming for.  You do NOT know, none of us do, because the show has historically been really great at thwarting all assumptions and expectations about what next season will bring.  (Whether what it came up with instead was better or not is a whole different discussion.)

And most of all, STOP assuming that because somebody likes—or hates!—a particular character, that it says ANYTHING about what they really want or would condone in real life.

STOP mocking and shaming and telling people that they are morally bankrupt because they happen to see something different from you, or think something different from you, or perhaps have been exposed to different information than you.

I don’t care whether you love Mary, or hate Mary, or are wildly indifferent to Mary.  I don’t care whether you think the show is better or worse for her presence on it.  STOP ATTACKING OTHER PEOPLE, BULLYING AND SILENCING OTHER PEOPLE AND MAKING THEM MISERABLE BECAUSE THEY DISAGREE WITH YOU.

I grasp that people who are doing this may not even have been aware that this is what they’ve been doing.  Some people have simply decided on their own stance and don’t want to hear about anything that disagrees with them.  

In which case you do not have the right to shout down others just because you don’t like what they’re saying.  You have resources to filter and control what you see on Tumblr.  USE THEM.

Other people have gotten entrenched in these moral positions: Mary = evil murderer whom no one should ever love; Mary = John’s feminine savior whom only a misogynist could hate. They are trying to fight for the soul and moral rectitude of fandom, based on opinions over this one character.  

But taking those positions in the first place is pointless.  She’s a character.  Whether you like her or hate her is a matter of personal preference, not a symbol of the state of your immortal soul.  And while discussions can and should be had on whether those preferences and interpretations are perhaps tied up in mores and expectations of a misogynist culture, shouting people down whenever they start talking about the character is antithetical to productive dialogue.  It’s silencing, and attempting to attack and shame people into either agreeing with your moral stance or shutting up about it is not only simply wrong, but also tactics worthy of the seediest lowlifes in politics and religion.

So if you feel like screaming at or mocking people for disagreeing with you about Mary, take a good hard look at yourself and then STOP.

I’ve said it before: it’s fine if you hate Mary.  It’s fine if you love Mary.  IT IS NOT FINE TO HURT OTHER PEOPLE FOR DISAGREEING WITH YOU ABOUT MARY.

Tells other people to stop shouting in CAPSLOCKS…. ^^

Well, yes, I was pretty irate.

I hope it was pretty clear, though, that I wasn’t shouting at people to stop shouting.  I was shouting at people to stop being hurtful to others—for example by shouting, bullying, shaming or mocking others—for having differing opinions.  

Fandom take a deep breath if you love her, fine, if you hate her fine.

Apparently, it’s not ‘if you love her, fine and if you hate her, fine’; ( although I don’t hate anyone. I just don’t like their actions. I certainly think they are compelling characters, and I’ve hated actions Sherlock and John have done too, without hating *them*).

These are all deeply flawed characters. The entire show is packed with them. Apparently, if you want to criticise a character’s actions, and make people face up to the pure facts of what a character they support ( in many cases, unconditionally) *did*, you shouldn’t make your opinion known. Because it might hurt someone’s feelings. Or be “mean”. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions and to express them freely.

Recently a new tag was developed specifically to protect people from accidentally viewing my opinions and those of others like me. To head this argument off at the pass, because I see it coming, I never wanted John to kill Mary. I never posted or implied anything like that. I just resent the one big happy family POV because I think it’s a bit much to forgive and I doubt it is sincere. Maybe it is. We will see what happens in the future. It is, most definitely, upsetting to me that people are so blasé and ultimately dismissive about my favorite character being shot and killed (temporarily or not). But they certainly have that right. And I can be upset about it.

They never had to agree with me. I never expected that. And now, I have not invaded anyone’s space, but am still being told to stop showing my support for Sherlock. Just because he forgave Mary (if he really did), doesn’t mean I have to. And others can continue to support her. I am neither required to agree, nor to shut up. And I don’t see why I should have caps rants telling me enough is enough.

I loved Mary, but her actions as a character were unforgivable and seemed selfish. Very selfish. I obviously adore Amanda Abbington and I still think Mary is a great character, despite her flaws. Hell, I’d never deny the deep flaws of the Sherlock characters!

I just wish people would appreciate other people’s opinions without getting so angry. No one should shut up. We can enjoy and excellent show and criticise characters and speculate. It’s fine if people do not want to see something, although it has reached a childish level where people are getting angry and sending hate to people because they think certain things or ship certain ships.

I sound like a ridiculous peacemaker, but I just want a happy fandom and it is far from that at this moment.

I hope it didn’t seem like I was being cruel or anything towards you, and if it did I am unbelievably sorry. I really love your blog and I love the whole of the fandom as well, apart from those who have started to act wrongly and caused arguments because of this whole situation that I still do not understand fully and I am really tired and don’t think I am making sense! Sorry about that also!

I was actually agreeing with you…that it should be if you love her…fine and if you hate her… fine. I don’t know why what I said doesn’t fit into that pattern. I’m just really really hurt by this whole thing that I can’t even agree with someone without sounding bitter. Sorry.

Oh god don’t apologise to me I have, probably, five hours sleep in the last two days nothing is making sense to me! It’s a really hurtful situation.

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dudeufugly:


Let me introduce you to Benedict Cumberbunny. 

Happy Easter!

dudeufugly:

Let me introduce you to Benedict Cumberbunny. 

Happy Easter!

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iwantthatcoat:

consultingat221b:

prettyarbitrary:

marybegone:

prettyarbitrary:

iwantthatcoat:

Apparently, a new wave of people are indignant about the “Mary Hate” and misogyny again. See this. Mary did this.  (Not Amanda Abbington…ok? I’m not an idiot) But… Mary did this.  I believe Sherlock has a plan in mind, a goal, a reason to claim “surgery” and to spin a tale about a phone call that may never have occurred… (keep your friends close and your enemies closer). John is, as he says, doing things Sherlock’s way. Don’t tell me it was her only option. Don’t make excuses for the poor, pregnant woman (*that’s* misogynistic). Look at this picture again and tell me how nice she is, how sweet, how kind, how perfect for John. Tell me about your OT3. I love this man. I am Mummy Holmes. Except… I do know who shot my boy. I have every right to be monstrous.

NO.  STOP IT.
I have had enough of this.  I wasn’t going to say anything about the latest blow-up, but this?  THIS IS SHAMING.
STOP IT.
You do NOT have a right to be monstrous.  BECAUSE THIS IS A FUCKING TELEVISION SHOW and the people you are being monstrous to are REAL PEOPLE.
STOP setting up straw-man arguments and assumptions about what you think they must be thinking if they like the character.  You do NOT know, because there are a hundred different reasons that might have brought them to holding the opinion they do.
STOP canonizing your headcanon and assuming that because it makes sense to you, it must be what the show is aiming for.  You do NOT know, none of us do, because the show has historically been really great at thwarting all assumptions and expectations about what next season will bring.  (Whether what it came up with instead was better or not is a whole different discussion.)
And most of all, STOP assuming that because somebody likes—or hates!—a particular character, that it says ANYTHING about what they really want or would condone in real life.
STOP mocking and shaming and telling people that they are morally bankrupt because they happen to see something different from you, or think something different from you, or perhaps have been exposed to different information than you.
I don’t care whether you love Mary, or hate Mary, or are wildly indifferent to Mary.  I don’t care whether you think the show is better or worse for her presence on it.  STOP ATTACKING OTHER PEOPLE, BULLYING AND SILENCING OTHER PEOPLE AND MAKING THEM MISERABLE BECAUSE THEY DISAGREE WITH YOU.
I grasp that people who are doing this may not even have been aware that this is what they’ve been doing.  Some people have simply decided on their own stance and don’t want to hear about anything that disagrees with them.  
In which case you do not have the right to shout down others just because you don’t like what they’re saying.  You have resources to filter and control what you see on Tumblr.  USE THEM.
Other people have gotten entrenched in these moral positions: Mary = evil murderer whom no one should ever love; Mary = John’s feminine savior whom only a misogynist could hate. They are trying to fight for the soul and moral rectitude of fandom, based on opinions over this one character.  
But taking those positions in the first place is pointless.  She’s a character.  Whether you like her or hate her is a matter of personal preference, not a symbol of the state of your immortal soul.  And while discussions can and should be had on whether those preferences and interpretations are perhaps tied up in mores and expectations of a misogynist culture, shouting people down whenever they start talking about the character is antithetical to productive dialogue.  It’s silencing, and attempting to attack and shame people into either agreeing with your moral stance or shutting up about it is not only simply wrong, but also tactics worthy of the seediest lowlifes in politics and religion.
So if you feel like screaming at or mocking people for disagreeing with you about Mary, take a good hard look at yourself and then STOP.
I’ve said it before: it’s fine if you hate Mary.  It’s fine if you love Mary.  IT IS NOT FINE TO HURT OTHER PEOPLE FOR DISAGREEING WITH YOU ABOUT MARY.

Tells other people to stop shouting in CAPSLOCKS…. ^^

Well, yes, I was pretty irate.
I hope it was pretty clear, though, that I wasn’t shouting at people to stop shouting.  I was shouting at people to stop being hurtful to others—for example by shouting, bullying, shaming or mocking others—for having differing opinions.  


Fandom take a deep breath if you love her, fine, if you hate her fine.

Apparently, it’s not ‘if you love her, fine and if you hate her, fine’; ( although I don’t hate anyone. I just don’t like their actions. I certainly think they are compelling characters, and I’ve hated actions Sherlock and John have done too, without hating *them*). These are all deeply flawed characters. The entire show is packed with them. Apparently, if you want to criticise a character’s actions, and make people face up to the pure facts of what a character they support ( in many cases, unconditionally) *did*, you shouldn’t make your opinion known. Because it might hurt someone’s feelings. Or be “mean”. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions and to express them freely. Recently a new tag was developed specifically to protect people from accidentally viewing my opinions and those of others like me. To head this argument off at the pass, because I see it coming, I never wanted John to kill Mary. I never posted or implied anything like that. I just resent the one big happy family POV because I think it’s a bit much to forgive and I doubt it is sincere. Maybe it is. We will see what happens in the future. It is, most definitely, upsetting to me that people are so blasé and ultimately dismissive about my favorite character being shot and killed (temporarily or not). But they certainly have that right. And I can be upset about it.They never had to agree with me. I never expected that. And now, I have not invaded anyone’s space, but am still being told to stop showing my support for Sherlock. Just because he forgave Mary (if he really did), doesn’t mean I have to. And others can continue to support her. I am neither required to agree, nor to shut up. And I don’t see why I should have caps rants telling me enough is enough.

I loved Mary, but her actions as a character were unforgivable and seemed selfish. Very selfish. I obviously adore Amanda Abbington and I still think Mary is a great character, despite her flaws. Hell, I’d never deny the deep flaws of the Sherlock characters!I just wish people would appreciate other people’s opinions without getting so angry. No one should shut up. We can enjoy and excellent show and criticise characters and speculate. It’s fine if people do not want to see something, although it has reached a childish level where people are getting angry and sending hate to people because they think certain things or ship certain ships. I sound like a ridiculous peacemaker, but I just want a happy fandom and it is far from that at this moment.I hope it didn’t seem like I was being cruel or anything towards you, and if it did I am unbelievably sorry. I really love your blog and I love the whole of the fandom as well, apart from those who have started to act wrongly and caused arguments because of this whole situation that I still do not understand fully and I am really tired and don’t think I am making sense! Sorry about that also!

iwantthatcoat:

consultingat221b:

prettyarbitrary:

marybegone:

prettyarbitrary:

iwantthatcoat:

Apparently, a new wave of people are indignant about the “Mary Hate” and misogyny again.
See this. Mary did this.
(Not Amanda Abbington…ok? I’m not an idiot)
But… Mary did this.
I believe Sherlock has a plan in mind, a goal, a reason to claim “surgery” and to spin a tale about a phone call that may never have occurred… (keep your friends close and your enemies closer).
John is, as he says, doing things Sherlock’s way.
Don’t tell me it was her only option.
Don’t make excuses for the poor, pregnant woman (*that’s* misogynistic).
Look at this picture again and tell me how nice she is, how sweet, how kind, how perfect for John. Tell me about your OT3.
I love this man. I am Mummy Holmes. Except… I do know who shot my boy. I have every right to be monstrous.

NO.  STOP IT.

I have had enough of this.  I wasn’t going to say anything about the latest blow-up, but this?  THIS IS SHAMING.

STOP IT.

You do NOT have a right to be monstrous.  BECAUSE THIS IS A FUCKING TELEVISION SHOW and the people you are being monstrous to are REAL PEOPLE.

STOP setting up straw-man arguments and assumptions about what you think they must be thinking if they like the character.  You do NOT know, because there are a hundred different reasons that might have brought them to holding the opinion they do.

STOP canonizing your headcanon and assuming that because it makes sense to you, it must be what the show is aiming for.  You do NOT know, none of us do, because the show has historically been really great at thwarting all assumptions and expectations about what next season will bring.  (Whether what it came up with instead was better or not is a whole different discussion.)

And most of all, STOP assuming that because somebody likes—or hates!—a particular character, that it says ANYTHING about what they really want or would condone in real life.

STOP mocking and shaming and telling people that they are morally bankrupt because they happen to see something different from you, or think something different from you, or perhaps have been exposed to different information than you.

I don’t care whether you love Mary, or hate Mary, or are wildly indifferent to Mary.  I don’t care whether you think the show is better or worse for her presence on it.  STOP ATTACKING OTHER PEOPLE, BULLYING AND SILENCING OTHER PEOPLE AND MAKING THEM MISERABLE BECAUSE THEY DISAGREE WITH YOU.

I grasp that people who are doing this may not even have been aware that this is what they’ve been doing.  Some people have simply decided on their own stance and don’t want to hear about anything that disagrees with them.  

In which case you do not have the right to shout down others just because you don’t like what they’re saying.  You have resources to filter and control what you see on Tumblr.  USE THEM.

Other people have gotten entrenched in these moral positions: Mary = evil murderer whom no one should ever love; Mary = John’s feminine savior whom only a misogynist could hate. They are trying to fight for the soul and moral rectitude of fandom, based on opinions over this one character.  

But taking those positions in the first place is pointless.  She’s a character.  Whether you like her or hate her is a matter of personal preference, not a symbol of the state of your immortal soul.  And while discussions can and should be had on whether those preferences and interpretations are perhaps tied up in mores and expectations of a misogynist culture, shouting people down whenever they start talking about the character is antithetical to productive dialogue.  It’s silencing, and attempting to attack and shame people into either agreeing with your moral stance or shutting up about it is not only simply wrong, but also tactics worthy of the seediest lowlifes in politics and religion.

So if you feel like screaming at or mocking people for disagreeing with you about Mary, take a good hard look at yourself and then STOP.

I’ve said it before: it’s fine if you hate Mary.  It’s fine if you love Mary.  IT IS NOT FINE TO HURT OTHER PEOPLE FOR DISAGREEING WITH YOU ABOUT MARY.

Tells other people to stop shouting in CAPSLOCKS…. ^^

Well, yes, I was pretty irate.

I hope it was pretty clear, though, that I wasn’t shouting at people to stop shouting.  I was shouting at people to stop being hurtful to others—for example by shouting, bullying, shaming or mocking others—for having differing opinions.  

Fandom take a deep breath if you love her, fine, if you hate her fine.

Apparently, it’s not ‘if you love her, fine and if you hate her, fine’; ( although I don’t hate anyone. I just don’t like their actions. I certainly think they are compelling characters, and I’ve hated actions Sherlock and John have done too, without hating *them*).

These are all deeply flawed characters. The entire show is packed with them. Apparently, if you want to criticise a character’s actions, and make people face up to the pure facts of what a character they support ( in many cases, unconditionally) *did*, you shouldn’t make your opinion known. Because it might hurt someone’s feelings. Or be “mean”. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions and to express them freely.

Recently a new tag was developed specifically to protect people from accidentally viewing my opinions and those of others like me. To head this argument off at the pass, because I see it coming, I never wanted John to kill Mary. I never posted or implied anything like that. I just resent the one big happy family POV because I think it’s a bit much to forgive and I doubt it is sincere. Maybe it is. We will see what happens in the future. It is, most definitely, upsetting to me that people are so blasé and ultimately dismissive about my favorite character being shot and killed (temporarily or not). But they certainly have that right. And I can be upset about it.

They never had to agree with me. I never expected that. And now, I have not invaded anyone’s space, but am still being told to stop showing my support for Sherlock. Just because he forgave Mary (if he really did), doesn’t mean I have to. And others can continue to support her. I am neither required to agree, nor to shut up. And I don’t see why I should have caps rants telling me enough is enough.

I loved Mary, but her actions as a character were unforgivable and seemed selfish. Very selfish. I obviously adore Amanda Abbington and I still think Mary is a great character, despite her flaws. Hell, I’d never deny the deep flaws of the Sherlock characters!

I just wish people would appreciate other people’s opinions without getting so angry. No one should shut up. We can enjoy and excellent show and criticise characters and speculate. It’s fine if people do not want to see something, although it has reached a childish level where people are getting angry and sending hate to people because they think certain things or ship certain ships.

I sound like a ridiculous peacemaker, but I just want a happy fandom and it is far from that at this moment.

I hope it didn’t seem like I was being cruel or anything towards you, and if it did I am unbelievably sorry. I really love your blog and I love the whole of the fandom as well, apart from those who have started to act wrongly and caused arguments because of this whole situation that I still do not understand fully and I am really tired and don’t think I am making sense! Sorry about that also!

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